Family dynamics.

I have been thinking so much about our family, we have a very strange family, in-law now, my family’s quite normal. For 12 years it feels like I have wasted my time with my parents-in-law, they have been trying to be fair to the whole family, at our expense. Apparantly, since Pete is the eldest, it seems we’ve had to bare the brunt of all sorts of crap. 99% of  the crap in our family is thanks to Pete’s brother’s wife. I know that’s a looooong way to say sil, but honestly, she so is not my sil. I only have one sil and she lives in NZ.

This woman has destroyed all the relationships in this family, her motive, jealousy. So, now we are trying to pick up the pieces with mil and fil, not an easy job. I have decided to move right along and go on with my life. And as a family, we have decided to not socialise with them, we will continue to rebuild our relationship with Pete’s parents.

Now in my own family, we would not have allowed someone so sick and twisted to carry on for as long as she’s been allowed to. We would have put a stop to it, and our relationship with everyone would have carried on. Most families sort their shit out fast and deal with crap as it arises, which brings me back to family dynamics. Surely we can all live together in harmony without back-biting, jealousy and all that crap? Why is it so difficult to sort our problems out?